There is no recipe for finding real love. Oh, yes, you have to be able to give it first… True. But your ability to give does not guarantee immediate success.
Then, as it usually happens, you pursue it – possibly without any depth leaving broken hearts behind – , or you might want to shun it, you might wish to find that One and Only that can really last but… since predestination prevails, it happens only if you included it in your plan. If you did, you premeditated it with that One and Only way before your earthly life, and that magic encounter happens countless times in your countless earthly lives with Him/Her.
Also, the so-called instructions for a good partnership are built in you – and you feel it deep inside of you – if you are to experience bliss in that field of life. Thus, it is worth the patience and all the inner struggles in the end.